Sorry I haven’t been able to post in a while, I’ve been busy traveling, working, trying to sell 2 houses/buy my new house and also be a good mommy to my son. Geez, I’m exhausted!!! To make matters worse, I guess the news of my new single status is hitting California like wildfire and I am just beating guys off with a baseball bat.
So let’s do a run down of guys who are both available and unavailable who are showing interest and pursuing me:
– Business Partner, “T” – Pros: Older guy, very nice, accomplished and has his act together, divorced and available, and has a 7 year old daughter. Cons: Lives in San Diego, older, not very attracted to him.
– Younger Business Partner, “J” – Pros: extremely attractive, nice, good/dry sense of humor, a little sarcastic, down to earth, has his act together, divorced and available, 5 year old son, a ton of chemistry and attraction between the two of us. Cons: Lives in Sacramento, CA, very shy and hasn’t shown any initiative towards asking me out, sends me mixed signals, very busy juggling life with son since he has 50% custody of his son.
– Peer and Co-worker, “S” – Pros: accomplished, very nice, knowledgeable, has his act together. Cons: Much older (like in his 50’s), lives in Oakland, zero attraction, could cause problems at workplace if I don’t nip this in bud now
– Peer and Co-worker, “K” – Pros: nice and knowledgeable guy, affluent and well to do, Cons: Married and unavailable, zero attraction, lives in Chicago and commutes to Sacramento, would not start affair with co-worker since it’s morally and professionally wrong.
– Random guys from online dating – Pros: Seem interested and willing to wait for my schedule to free up to meet Cons: not very interested in meeting them.
– Co-worker, “R”- Pros: Nice, knowledgeable, affluent, great career, tall, great attraction to his personality and intelligence, also physically attracted to him. Cons: very married with young son which is very bad because if he was single I would date him, he travels all the time so not very available to meet if he were single.
I have this problem now that the guys in California know that I am single and available and are now pursing me. My peer/co-worker asked me if I wanted to go have dinner last night and I said sure, but I wanted to make sure that he didn’t get the wrong idea so invited other people to go eat with us. Thank goodness I had other people there because I didn’t want to feel awkward and didn’t realize this guy was divorced because otherwise I wouldn’t have accepted the dinner invitation. Now the next morning I get an e-mail from him saying “Nice having dinner last night. Next time you head this way if you want to take a day or night trip to SF, let me know. Would be fun.” Seriously?? What is that supposed to mean? I am NOT taking a night trip with him to San Francisco! Damn, I need to nip this in the bud quickly or I am going to myself in hot water. I thought he was just being nice to me but now I am getting a different idea.
So this is my plan, I’m going to text cute BP “J” and ask him if he will be my wingman and pretend I’m dating someone so that other guys will leave me alone. I know it’s convoluted because I really want to date him but if I can say I’m dating him then everyone will know it’s someone local and will leave me alone rather than trying to keep pursuing me. Geez, this is another thing I miss about being off the market, I didn’t really have to deal with this….I would flash my wedding ring and talk about my husband and son and 99.9% of guys would leave me alone.
Who knew you would want to change your single status so other guys would leave you alone? I never thought I would ever have this problem…damn it sucks to be single sometimes. Let’s see how this year shakes out. So far it’s been a roller coaster but I’m just trying to enjoy the ride, lift my hands in the air as we crest the hills, and let the wind blow through my hair as I whoop with enjoyment. What other way is there to approach this? Let’s all put our hands in the air together…and wave them like we just don’t care! (Sorry…you know I couldn’t resist!!!)
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